There is even a psychological theory for this, called Socioemotional Selectivity Theory. Essentially, as young people, we seek “information” and “possibilities,” and we talk to everybody. However, as we age and recognize that our days are numbered, we prioritize “emotional meaning.”
We no longer seek to build a “network” but seek to create a “haven.”
This does not indicate that you are becoming “cantankerous” or “reclusive.” On the contrary, it reflects a sense of purposefulness. In essence, it is the equivalent of decluttering your home from an emotional standpoint. You are evaluating every single relationship and asking yourself, “Does it bring me happiness?” If the response is “No, it actually gives me a headache,” you have every justification to discard it.
Conclusion
Moving away from relationships after the age of 70 does not require any elaborate farewell speeches. There is no need for sending a resignation letter. The process typically involves a gradual fade-out rather than an abrupt cut-off. This involves the decision to stop calling and texting, apologizing for things one did not do, and making appearances for people who would not do anything similar for them.
It’s all about recognition. One recognizes their independence and realizes that they cannot exist as someone else’s whipping post, personal psychologist, or reserve force.
Once you get rid of the “wrong” individuals, you will finally have enough strength to breathe and enjoy some quality time with those who genuinely make you smile, listen to you, and give you their attention. Isn’t that what you deserve after living through seventy years?
Caring for your own inner peace does not amount to rejection but self-care. It may very well be one of the most important steps you take at this stage of your life.
